In the middle of a divorce, you may feel overwhelmed with all the changes you are going through. Although many of these may be good and healthy, you may still notice your children acting differently than usual.
Helping kids manage their stress can allow you both to adjust to this new lifestyle.
Focus on creating good habits
According to the American Psychological Association, building healthy habits as a family can help reduce stress over time. Start by encouraging your children to exercise more with you, such as walking around outside or playing games together. Team sports can also help your children have fun while learning new skills.
Keeping a regular sleep schedule can also help ward off bouts of irritation or anxiety. By focusing on your children’s daily structure, you can help them cope with the bigger changes going on in their family.
Keep your attitude respectful
Fighting in front of your children or complaining about your ex-spouse can lead to heartbreak and hurt feelings. Sometimes, children may learn to hesitate to talk to you about private matters, while in other cases they may mimic your opinions and join in on the insults.
Staying neutral or positive while discussing your ex-spouse is the best way to avoid any issues.
You should expect questions about future plans, such as any change in schools or households. Many younger ones may worry about where they will spend the holidays. By talking openly about these plans, you can help soothe any fears and encourage your children to discuss what they are thinking or feeling with you.