After a divorce, it may not be easy to communicate or work with your former spouse. However, when you have children together, you still have to consider one another on the same team.
According to Oprah Daily, you have to be able to put your conflict aside to work together for the sake of your children.
Transform your relationship
Your relationship may no longer be romantic, but you have to retain a relationship as parents of the same children. You should try to transform your relationship into a more professional one. The two of you have to raise your kids together.
Focus on communication
No doubt you and your ex will have disagreements. You have to learn to talk it out and to communicate professionally. If necessary, find a neutral space for the two of you to speak. You should not put your phone on silent when you see your ex’s number. While it may be tempting, you do need to be available to talk. This does not mean that you have to make yourself accessible when it inconveniences you, but do try to get back to your ex promptly.
Even when you disagree with your former spouse, try not to badmouth him or her. You should never speak poorly in front of your children. Children perceive themselves as a combination of you and your former spouse. When you insult their other parent, they may take it to heart.
You also need to take into consideration your children’s sense of family. Do not ignore special holidays or birthdays that your ex may celebrate. For example, if you have custody during a birthday dinner, you may consider allowing your spouse to have the children on that day.